June 8, 2017 — Belmont Citizen-Herald
Congratulations Belmont High Class of 2017. As you cross the stage to accept your diploma, family, friends and community members all look on with justifiable pride. You represent not only our today, but offer us our tomorrow. And while it looks like our tomorrow is in pretty good hands, we need some help from you.
Today’s world poses some problems that I’d ask you to help us all work on as you move forward. One of the biggest problems is that we frequently seem to forget today that words matter. The old childhood rhyme is just plain wrong when it asserts that “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Now I concede, as a person with training in both law and journalism, I pay particular attention to words. I won an Iowa supreme court case once because the state legislature used the word “that” where it should have instead used the word “this.” Nonetheless, for everyone, words do matter.
Some words get over-used today. For example, I fear we may have become too casual with the word “hate.” I, personally, often proclaim that I “hate” the Yankees, the Jets and the Jayhawks. Hate, however, is a strong word, capturing a strong emotion. We cheapen its meaning by making its use too casual. When we become desensitized to the word’s true meaning, it becomes too easy to overlook expressions of disapproval (or even simple discomfort) through proclaimed “hate” in language, or through practiced “hate” in behavior. Be wary if you find the word “hate” popping up in your vocabulary too frequently.
The word “them” gets over-used as well. “Them” (as in “not us”) connotes a focus on that which makes someone different. One problem with its use today is that the word too frequently focuses exclusively on a single attribute of a person (or group of people). A presentation last year here in Belmont, for example, concerned “Muslims in America.” One speaker eloquently questioned how a person might become a “them” based solely on differences in religion, even though the commonalities arising from being a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a neighbor might be far more substantial. Finding yourself with lots of “thems” in your life may merit some reflection on whether you are allowing yourself to experience the entirety of individuals you meet.
When I was in college, comedian George Carlin had a popular routine about “seven words you can never say on TV.” Carlin used humor to make the point that words are just words; they are harmless unto themselves. But words are rarely “just words.” And they almost never stand unto themselves. Words almost always carry a context: expectations, judgments, emotions, history. Their use conveys that context. Please, be aware of the full context you are conveying in the words you use.
The world seems recently to have become a less civil society. Your conscientious use of words in the future can help reverse that trend. To do so, whether you move from high school to college, or to some other life pursuit, you should strive to be constantly self-aware of your day-to-day, person-to-person impact on the world. One of those impacts is through your awareness that no matter the setting –work or play, on-line or in-person, public or private– what you say, and how you say it, makes a difference.
In short, as you move on after graduation, I ask that you consciously strive to use words wisely. Words matter.
Class of 2017, as an entire community, we smile and feel a rush of pride upon your graduation. Congratulations on your accomplishments. Godspeed on your life journey.